|
Reactions |
Techniques |
|
Birth to 1 Year |
Cries, fusses and pulls away from the parent
Clings to the parent or caregiver who stayed
behind
Changes sleeping and eating habits
Does not recognize the parent |
Hold
the baby, and hug him or her a lot
Bathe and change the baby
Feed and play with the baby
Relax and be patient — the baby will warm up
|
|
1 to 3 Years |
Shyness
Clinging
Does not recognize the parent
Cries
Has temper tantrums
Regresses (no longer toilet trained) |
Don’t force holding, hugging or
kissing
Give them space
Give them time to warm up
Be gentle and fun
Sit at their level
|
|
3 to 5 Years |
Demonstrates anger
Acts out to get the parent’s attention
Is demanding
Feels guilty for making the parent go away
Talks a lot to bring the parent up to date |
Listen to them
Accept their feelings
Play with them
Reinforce your love for them
Ask about interests, from TV to preschool |
|
5 to 12 Years |
Has
fears of inadequacy
Dreads the parent’s return because of discipline
Boasts about the Army and the parent |
Review pictures, schoolwork, activities, scrap
books
Praise what they have done
Try not to criticize |
|
13 to 18 Years |
Is
excited
Feels guilty about not living up to standards
Is concerned about rules and responsibilities
Unwilling to change plans to accommodate parent
Is rebellious |
Share what has happened with you
Listen with undivided attention
Don’t be judgmental
Respect privacy and friends
Don’t tease about fashion, music |
